The cameras were there but we generally just forgot they were there. At a point we really just forgot they were there and I really got to connect with the guys.
That and obviously gay men have received a bad reputation for sexual racism and body shaming and things of that nature. Reality as a whole gets a bad name for itself because some people just don’t get it.
But I also didn’t want to steer him in any direction because there were certain things that I knew were going on in the house that I didn’t want him to know because I wanted him to really follow his heart and let the guys in the house create their own journey with him. He didn’t give me advice on stuff going on in the house that I didn’t see. But it was a nice little break for me to put the phone down, not check Instagram, not be on Twitter, not be on email.
He saw things that I wasn’t allowed to see actually until I watch the show. There were so many times I was screaming, “No, don’t pick him.” I was a fan of this show, going through it. RSJ: For the first few days, it was hard not to have our phones. It really gave me and the contestants the opportunity to focus on each other. We were focusing on who we were as people, as individuals, talking about past relationships, childhood, going through changes.
A contestant must search the contents of three suitors’ bedrooms and then choose one of them to date based solely on said contents.
As is expected of any project that involves gay men, the show was immediately met with scrutiny and judgment.