This seems pretty obvious when I say it, but as you know, adults regularly assume that it's OK to touch strange children. rethink the term ''tantrum'' and replace it in your mind with ''panic attack'' or ''freakout'' or something that feels less like a power struggle. For example, if he doesn't want to go to a party, convince him to at least walk up the front steps.
If that is too hard, have him touch the front gate and count to 10.
I remember feeling that same thing you mentioned: if only I could put a sign on him that says ''please don't touch.'' We went to a psychiatrist for 2 years to help us all learn coping techniques for anxiety.
One of the many helpful things the doctor taught us is that the child has a right to decide who can touch him, and has a right to not be touched if he doesn't want to be touched. consistently push against your child's anxieties, but only to the extent that he can handle - otherwise it won't be therapeutic.
Look through the listings of Cowboy members that have joined Cowboy Dating Service that are tagged with Bipolar.
Meeting other members who have similar interests is a great way to find things to do once you are dating.
He might turn out 'fine' as you daughter has. But getting him evaluated and some help NOW while he is still younger and more amenable to change is the best route to go. What you describe sounds entirely and completely normal and common to me. Both of my kids seemed to just flip out and switch personalities. They sometimes freaked out if they were just looked at.
For example, my son would get super uptight about what clothes to wear, but really he was stalling because he was anxious about going to school. good luck to you, mom of worrier Your concerns about your son are well placed and certainly understandable.
You have not entered into a ''clinic'' setting like Stanford or UCSF. On a lesser note, I'm often embarrassed and frustrated by him and feel confused whether I should avoid most social situations with him for now.
We went to those places for second and third opinions with Dr. His specific behaviors include tantruming, aversion to people talking to, touching or approaching him. I was hyper-vigilant with him and did my best to remove him as soon as he began to tantrum (when someone picked him up from a chair he was sitting in and I couldn't get to him in time).
However, my son has had anxiety issues starting around age 3.
Some of the things you mentioned, such as being touched by strangers, would cause him to completely freak.